Narcissi...oh, heck - you know who it is!

Not Funny this time...

My mother was 101 when she passed away - but when she was around 80; she began to put her ducks in a row.  Oh, she had her Will safely drawn-up years before (down to the teaspoons) but this was just her way of setting things straight on the home front.

One day, she tells me she'd like a woman friend from her senior group who happened to be a retired psychologist to mediate our family's dirty linen in a casual setting - pro bono.

"You & me first", she said.

The fact that my older sister & I were not close was her nagging Achilles heel; leaving a black mark on her Mothering - so what could it hurt?

And, since I was always a supportive & loving 2nd daughter & middle child to boot; I agreed to meet without any discussion - yet never revealing my long held belief of the real cause.

That didn't mean this meet-up was a walk in the park; in fact, it was torturous for me. 

I remember walking into a private entrance to a basement level room of a home this woman shared with her grown daughter's family; then sat on the couch while the woman sat in a straight-back chair in front of us - eyes widened & all business.

As I recall; I stood up for myself, but took plenty of hits.  This left me physically spent & unhappier than I had been since I could remember.  Not because I felt guilty; but that I took my lumps to appease my mother & satisfy this aging mental health professional just to get out of there.

In the short amount of time we had; I remember being frustrated that her questions could never cover the length & breadth of my difficulties with my older sister that left us un-bonded & dysfunctional.

Relieved it was over & hoping never to return; my mother & I walked out of that stranger's home no better & much worse than we had begun.  Yet somehow I believe my Mother was pumped that there was a breakthrough.

Late that night & out of the blue; I get a phone call from this woman's grown daughter - apologizing.

Taken-aback; I was shocked to hear that this retired Psychologist had Dementia & her daughter was effusively repentant on her mother's behalf.

All that angst & emotional whiplash for naught; just because my mother took it upon herself to believe that someone on the outside could fix our inside - for free.

This personal story triggered the notion that Ivanka Trump, her brothers & sister Tiffany could do that same thing for America & the world & make that call. 

It's simple, kids - pick one: Loyalty to your father, your business or your country? 

BTW, turning a blind eye is not loyalty; it's cowardice.  Or is it just Business?

And, don't wait for him to turn himself in - those afflicted do not acknowledge they have a problem.

Trump may not have Dementia; but he has far worse.  Today, the words - Paranoia & Narcissism  get tossed around so commonly; they are simply excused - partly because we can't pronounce it! 

And, how come if you've had it for a long time..."Walking Narcissism" - it doesn't count?

He may not be crazy or nuts - but merely a high functioning businessman just like an alcoholic; who made a couple bucks & learned how to borrow from Peter to pay Paul. 

But, Trump doesn't get it - to be President; you need to have diplomacy & patience, finesse & nuance & wait for it... humility - not just be a great Salesman with a case of Insomnia & 2 un-arthritic thumbs!

And, as citizens - we don't ask for much - we want to believe our President; not question his honesty in both good times & bad.

But, when it comes to ending the world as we know it; an "Intervention/Pre-Kidnap" seems to be in order. 

Just sayin' - but I know some down & out Space Aliens that wouldn't mind making a few bucks!  Mileage is extra, of course.

As we're now seeing Trump act on his campaign promises in the guise of "Change"; you have to be blind to see that his paranoia against "the opposition" has driven him to make rash decisions creating confusion.

I don't care how you slice it; calling his Travel Ban a success is spin & arrogance & he didn't think anyone would notice?

With a low approval rating; I foresee continued chaos with every new directive - no matter how many Presidential Order Signing Photo Ops his hot-shot dream team lined up till 2024.

My suggestion for the next one would be "Speed Bumps for Executive Orders".

And, since narcissism fuels paranoia; I see a merry-go-round of unattainable  Actions & Pronouncements he'll continue to throw against the wall to see if anything sticks & then deftly distract with a vendetta against enemies for concentrating on the wrong stuff.

I say..."If you see something, say something"!

And, I am.  

Unless he's held accountable & kicked to the curb; Donald Trump's pathological lying & un-certifiable Mental Disorders will just continue & be studied someday in a Specimen Jar - but of course, it has to be biggggg!


Hope you don't mind me bending your ear...

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Comment by alsoknownas on January 30, 2017 at 3:10pm

Don't mind the ear bending but there was a typo.

I think you meant "learned how to borrow from Peter then not pay Paul. "

Comment by JMac1949 Today on January 30, 2017 at 3:24pm

So you're the middle child... that explains everything.  R&L

Comment by koshersalaami on January 30, 2017 at 4:47pm

I don't think the Republicans in Congress have as much time as they think.

Trump has no respect for any other branch of government and Bannon has less. They are consolidating power in weird ways Right and left. The ban is in effect and customs officials are ignoring the ban and listening to the President. That means without enforcement the judicial branch can't stop Trump. Goodbye, balance of power. You think Trump and Bannon are listening to Congress? Trump has cultivated law enforcement. The question is whether he alienated the military enough. He just pulled the Chairman of the Joint Chiefs off his security council and replaced him with Bannon. 

We have a way more serious problem than policy. 

Comment by marilyn sands on January 30, 2017 at 5:54pm

Thanks aka - ...and picked a pocket or two!  ha ha

Comment by marilyn sands on January 30, 2017 at 5:56pm

Thanks jmac - ha ha  You found me out! 

Comment by marilyn sands on January 30, 2017 at 5:59pm

Thanks F.Monkey - you mean Ivanka isn't gonna read this? 

Comment by marilyn sands on January 30, 2017 at 6:33pm

Thanks Kosh!  You're always so right on the money. 

I (almost) give up - when Trump said his Cabinet Picks had the highest IQ's of any other Cabinet - I just knew he was covering up for a few dull knives in the drawer.  If that's true - the fun part will be to see how the Cabinet members get along with each other...maybe they will combust!    

Comment by marilyn sands on January 30, 2017 at 6:35pm

Thanks Buddha guy...and so much more - why'd you stop?

Comment by nerd cred on January 30, 2017 at 7:24pm

Marilyn - another typo: not  biggggg but yuuuge

You have to admit - your story could make a funny little TV episode - Twilight Zone? I sympathize. Really. I had a mother. She didn't quite measure up to the trmp standard for narcissism but she was on the scale, no question. (See how I can even spell the word?)

The thing is, the children are probably incapable of separating from him enough to intervene. It's an effect of a narcissistic parent. I know. I have siblings. I was away from her for many years and I got a lot of psychotherapy. It allowed me to pull away.

I could go on and on but there's no reason for you to believe me - I am not a trained professional. Just an observant survivor. He has seen them and treated them all their lives as extensions of his own ego, not as separate, autonomous agents of their own. They can't.

See this - https://goo.gl/0R0gjc. (I don't have the menu that allows me to link.)

re what kosh said - not just the Joint Chiefs Chairman - also the DNI. Because wtf do they have to do with nat'l security. Rasputin is the key guy. Someone on TV said that both the CJC and the DNI are "statutorily" on the Security Council. Will we see anything done about it? Ever? I don't even know if that's verified.

Comment by marilyn sands on January 30, 2017 at 11:14pm

Thanks nerd cred!  There are all kinds of mothers.  Some know how to be one - others fly by the seat of their pants.  Hardest job in the world, wouldn't you say?  But that's another essay.  

I agree with you that Trump's kids won't do the right thing - because like you say - they and (other narcissistic members of families) are  brainwashed to support & protect their parent. The lying is what gets to me - I can't believe the Trump kids & grandkids don't ever give it a thought - or do they?  Umm.  I was just having a little pipe dream & wish Americans were not having this political chaos in our lives.


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