The problem the GOP has with Donald Trump is not solvable. Politicians are notoriously self-centered, but they understand that, for the most part, supporting the party is good for them. Trump, however, does not think that way. There are cries from the GOP leadership for unity. For them that means supporting the decades long ideals of small government, tax breaks for the wealthy – on the pretext that that will be good for business and ultimately for everyone – and bedroom issues.
Trump has horrified many of them by suggesting that those ideals are negotiable. For The Donald, everything is negotiable. When Trump talks about party unity he is talking about supporting him in any guise.
Trump is not a team player.
Trump is a classic Narcissist.
DSM V (diagnostic and statistical manual, fifth edition) is used by psychiatrists and clinical psychologists as the standard for psychiatric diagnosis. There are nine criteria for Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Not every narcissist displays all nine, but it is required to have most behaviors displayed to make the diagnosis. The criteria are:
Please point out the behavior that Donald Trump does not display.
Looking at the above listed behavior you might be surprised to know other characteristics of narcissists. The following are a list compiled by Leon Selzer, PhD who has 30 years of experience as a psychologist.
It is important to note that this personality exists along a continuum of severity. Lists of famous people with narcissistic traits include not only Adolf Hitler and Josef Stalin, but Margaret Thatcher and Barack Obama. In the entertainment world they include O.J. Simpson and Donald Trump, but, also, Madonna and Joan Crawford. Clearly those individuals are not all at one end of the spectrum.
Many in the field note that this disorder seems to be produced by a narcissist’s mother.
Narcissists, perhaps because they are only aware of their own needs and feelings, and manipulate others to meet those, are at first very engaging and popular. It is only after an individual or group has been swept into the sphere of a narcissist’s influence that the pain begins. The same ability to manipulate others with flattery at first enables a narcissist to be cruel, derisive, and threatening to those they have made useful. They are masters at this behavior. The beautiful girl that a narcissist woos as arm candy in order to make him more handsome is often manipulated into believing that she is stupid, ugly and unlikable to anyone but the manipulator. I’m sure this works in other gender relationships, as well. Some narcissists learn that certain behaviors bring about unwanted results and avoid those activities, but usually are unable to resist occasional socially unacceptable behavior over the long term. Trump certainly seems to have been attracted to a “type”.
Ivana Trump with husband Donald
Marla Maples, Trump’s Second Wife and Daughter, Tiffany
Donald and Melania Trump
Narcissists are often quite successful in life. They may be businessmen, executives, military leaders, or of course, politicians. Their success comes at a terrible cost to others around them.
Please note that the author is not a mental health professional. All of the comments above came from individuals who are, rephrased for brevity and clarity in some cases.