The Pound People vs the Cubic Footers

       Well we got a good offer on Mom's house and made a reasonable counter offer and a 35 day escrow deadline.  Mom isn't sitting in her chair calling the shots anymore....I am.   I like it.

        The mover estimator came today.  Cute and energetic.  He is a Pounder.  That means he will give us a bid on the amount our stuff weighs.  I have been on the phone with some amazing Cubic Footers out of LA who promise me the moon but want a hundred dollar deposit to give an estimate and most can't even really make it down here.  There seems to be an endless supply of these scammers and I thank goodness for the internet to sort out what is true. 

       Cubic Footers are illegal but not over to Hawaii.   The pound people are professionals and this guy today was a good salesman.  Turns out he is the manager down here and does the initial estimates because he is good at it and it keeps him in touch with what is going on.  

        So our focus had shifted from what our emotions say we want to how much things weigh.  It is a trade off and I don't think the above recliner is going to make it.  There are plenty of other little delights to send so when we get down to the wire it will be interesting to see what we take to Hawaii.  


       This red chair is not making the cut.  Craigslist ads will be circulated for beds too because the thrift stores do not take mattresses.   I don't blame them. 

         The dining room table and chairs will go and we are looking forward to all of us sitting down to a nice family dinner in Hawaii around this table.   None of us really have room for it right now but time will tell where it ends up.  We are sailing by the seat of our pants now and I love it.

   This chair will not make the cut.  It was a fairly new purchase by mom at a thrift store and it was never comfortable for her but it was good for show.   We want to take things that have deep meaning especially at $1.69 a pound.

    Life is so much about tradeoffs.  You can't have it all but you can have lots of perfect moments that seem like you have it all.   Some things fall through the cracks.   The feed of life is relentless.  Mom is fading into history.  She made her mark and now there are the photos and the furniture and the smells that linger; all  soon fading away to nothing.

Then Almitra spoke, saying, "We would ask now of Death."
      And he said:
      You would know the secret of death.
      But how shall you find it unless you seek it in the heart of life?
      The owl whose night-bound eyes are blind unto the day cannot unveil the mystery of light.
      If you would indeed behold the spirit of death, open your heart wide unto the body of life.
      For life and death are one, even as the river and the sea are one.
      In the depth of your hopes and desires lies your silent knowledge of the beyond;
      And like seeds dreaming beneath the snow your heart dreams of spring.
      Trust the dreams, for in them is hidden the gate to eternity.
      Your fear of death is but the trembling of the shepherd when he stands before the king whose hand is to be laid upon him in honour.
      Is the shepherd not joyful beneath his trembling, that he shall wear the mark of the king?
      Yet is he not more mindful of his trembling?
      For what is it to die but to stand naked in the wind and to melt into the sun?
      And what is to cease breathing, but to free the breath from its restless tides, that it may rise and expand and seek God unencumbered?
      Only when you drink form the river of silence shall you indeed sing.
      And when you have reached the mountain top, then you shall begin to climb.
      And when the earth shall claim your limbs, then shall you truly dance.

                    Kahil Gibran


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Comment by Charlie Thornton on March 27, 2015 at 8:08pm

Wow. This is great blogging.

This takes on loss, the need to move on (literally), it gives a literal perspective of the nitty gritty everyday decisions one must make, you give us pictures and a literary poetic take as well.  All drawn from your current real-life experience.

Well done.

Comment by Julie Johnson on March 27, 2015 at 8:28pm

Pounds having to be carried and paid for do have a way of putting it all into perspective.  good luck, Zanelle!  

Comment by koshersalaami on March 27, 2015 at 9:13pm
What happens in Hawaii? Are you moving there? Was San Diego about being close to your mother?
Comment by Poor Woman on March 27, 2015 at 9:56pm

Still not sleepy enough for sleep, so checked back--glad I did.

Chairs. Personal spaces of temporary usage where people have rested.

Charlie's right. Good blogging.

R&L Peace to you, Z

Comment by nerd cred on March 27, 2015 at 10:05pm

You're amazing.

(A thought - we put on our own estate sale - a big mistake. It doesn't sound like you're thinking that way  - because you're smart - but if you do, based on our experience I'd suggest hiring professionals to do it.)

Comment by Zanelle on March 28, 2015 at 4:32am

Yes, NC, the real estate lady is legend in my mom's area and she is a little dynamo.  It is an adult mobile park and very persnickety so Im just doing what mom said and it is going to be sold quickly to avoid the monthly rental fees.  The view will sell the place.  A couple lives in the park and they are bringing in their parents from Nebraska.   We should be out of there ASAP which is great.   I trust this lady real estate lady which is a nice thing and she is doing a great job.  Sure we might get more if we start a bidding war or something but getting out quick is what I need now.  All is well.

Thanks for the compliments on my blogging.  I love to stitch together a blog post and have been doing it for soooooo long because I love it and need it. Glad you got the idea about the chairs pw.  Temporary resting places.

I don't know what will happen in Hawaii but.. Yes Yes  Kosh.

Julie  ....   pounds do make us accountable for all the stuff.  The cubic feeters are a shifty lot.

Charlie..yep, I try to cram it all into my writing.  lol

Comment by Mary Lois Adshead on March 28, 2015 at 5:21am

Odd how sorting out, evaluating, pricing--basically concentrating on intrinsic, concrete numbers--helps ease the mind to accept the finality of the departure. Craigslist and professional, legendary salespeople are a godsend, if there is a god. You have expressed it succinctly for all of us. "You can't have it all but you can have lots of perfect moments that make it seems like you have it all." I love that!

Comment by JMac1949 Today on March 28, 2015 at 5:24am

R&L Good that you're jumping into change with both feet.  Will you be moving to Hawaii to be closer to your daughters?

Comment by Jonathan Wolfman on March 28, 2015 at 6:04am

We loved Hawaii in the yr we lived there. 

And we love you, Zanelle. 

Comment by Heidi Banerjee on March 28, 2015 at 7:09am

I like the idea of you leaving a quote by Khalil Gibran. I am trying to figure out how you are doing a week after your mom's death. There has been so much turbulence lately. Now I'll go over to your other posts.


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