Tears for our Tink. RIP Wifey Bear

I just sobbed hot bitter tears all the way home from the hardware store, where I received a text message from Susan Joy informing me of the sudden death of Tink's wife Pamela today. In fact, still crying as I type here.

I've "known" Tink for just about exactly four years, the same way the rest of you know him, as the crazy blogging cat at open salon and elsewhere. Finally, this last July when returning home from our family reunion in West Virginia, I stopped at their "Indiucky" home in New Albany, Indiana and spent an evening laughing and hanging out with Jason (our Tink) and wifey bear Pam who guided me in to their neck of the woods via phone. They provided a bed for me to rest, and the next morning when I left, it was T's birthday and Pam whispered to me to be sure to congratulate him, which I did of course. Their love for each other was quite evident to me then, as it has been to all I am certain, over time.

Death of a loved one is most vile for the survivors, and today my deepest heartfelt sympathies go out to Jason and family.

Damnet man, I am so very deeply sorry, for whatever that is worth-- at this moment probably not much. 

Tears... more tears . .   .     .         .

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Comment by alsoknownas on December 19, 2012 at 1:45pm

Tink. No words will do.

Comment by Boanerges on December 19, 2012 at 1:51pm

OMFG. What on Earth happened? Damndamndamn. I can't imagine what he's going through. If you're in contact with him, please tell him from all of us that he and Pamela are in our thoughts and prayers.

Comment by Cranky Cuss on December 19, 2012 at 2:07pm

I'm just stunned, shocked and heartbroken.

Comment by Jenny on December 19, 2012 at 2:10pm

heartbreaking news, so very sorry for tink, she was the center of his life I think.

Comment by koshersalaami on December 19, 2012 at 2:16pm

"At this moment probably not much..."

You'd be surprised.

Having a community mobilize for you is a very gratifying thing. You think: I don't know who cares, I know these people casually at best, why are they going to bother? And then you find that you do matter, and that, believe it or not, is a very comforting thing to learn.

There are at least two posts up right now about Tink and Pamela, and he didn't write either of them. He is being told that he counts, because he does, but he needs to know that at the moment.

Comment by Poor Woman on December 19, 2012 at 2:23pm

It is a sad day. A very sad day indeed.

Comment by DaisyJane on December 19, 2012 at 2:34pm

i am very very sorry.  i keep thinking of the walks they would take, and places they would visit, and his posts and pictures.   very, very sorry.

Comment by JMac1949 Memories on December 19, 2012 at 2:42pm

Damn, damn, damn ... and I can find no other words.  R&L

Comment by Alysa Salzberg on December 19, 2012 at 3:08pm

Oh my God. I just logged in after being out this afternoon.  What horrible, shocking, awful news. I'm at a loss for words.  My heart goes out to Tink and his family....

Comment by Anna Herrington on December 19, 2012 at 3:27pm

I'm sure it's worth a lot, tr ig.

Glad you got to meet Pam -- what a shock, eh?

You're  a kind man.


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