An excerpt from an email to Jo's dad. Because we all want the best for our daughter, but no one really knows what that is. In order for me to effectively argue the point to my boss that ABA therapy must be added to our insurance, so at least the question can be asked of the Board, I first had to get my head on straight about the therapy itself.
My mental-block to this process was the need to put aside my own frustrations that our society has no patience for kids anymore. The idea that my brothers and myself would all be sidelined as "disabled" today is infuriating. But the truth is, today's society and our lives require that we all work day jobs to support ourselves. There is no shame in not being the one to daily teach Josie how to be a citizen.
And accepting therapy for Josie does not make me complacent to what I view as wrong and offensive. We call it therapy so insurance will cover it, but in a previous generation, it was called parenting because parents were expected to have their kids ready for school. Now parenting itself is more standardized, with higher standards for parents and kids than when we were kids. Kindergarten is no longer the transition to school, but school itself. At the same time, it is unrealistic for parents to be the ones to get their kids ready, because not every child has the same learning skills and not every parent has a degree in child development.