I think I’m a member of the 50% of Americans who, according to your election night philosophy-on-the fly rant, “…want stuff.”

Here’s a history lesson for you.  Let’s see if it helps you figure this thing out.

The first slave on my Dad’s side of the family was not African American.  He was a white indentured servant who arrived on a ship that left Liverpool in 1698.

He did very well for himself, indeed, after working off his debt.  We’re proud of that.

Later, someone in his family sired a few children who looked like my daughter.  Or…she’s half Hopi Indian, so they were probably a little bit lighter of skin than our girl. 

But they did very well, too.

The only slaves we know of on my mother’s side of the family bought their freedom, acquired, somehow, some land in Mississippi, and never asked for any kind of assistance, ever, from then on.

They would not be servants.  They did not wash clothes for white people.  They ate, and sold, what they grew.  And they didn’t exactly “prosper,” but they did more than just survive.

No one on either side of my immediate family would’ve dreamt of asking for anything they didn’t earn.   Ever.  Everyone in our family felt that being American meant giving back, not “taking.”

My father was a proud veteran of WWII.  When I visited the little town in Normandy where he’d fed the local children with whatever he could scrape up from leftovers from Army chow…they kissed and hugged me and called out his name with tears in their eyes.

That proud patriot and his wife worked two jobs when necessary, to make sure that I went to the best schools in Chicago and could attend the college of my choice.  I took piano and ballet lessons.  I graduated with honors.  I traveled to Europe.  I even got to see the little town in Buckinghamshire that bears our family name.

I hugged the sign you see as you arrive there.  “Home” at last…

I became a reporter for the Chicago Sun Times—won an award for journalism, later, in Arizona.

I married a Hopi Indian artist, raised our beautiful daughter to be proud of both cultures, and she, too, graduated from college as a member of an honors “sorority.”

And it was in Arizona that I became the first “Independent” our family had ever had.  They had always been Democrats.  I thought it was time that I tried to look at both sides—or all the many sides of every issue.

I was fully prepared, if the Republicans gave me reason, to vote for a Republican this year.

But a couple of things made me nervous.  VERY nervous.

When both of my proud parents got old, the health care system gave us hell.  I mean…hell.  There is no other way to put it.  I won’t divulge details, but I welcomed any help Obamacare might give to others facing the same ordeal.

My parents died before Obamacare.  But if they hadn’t, there are parts of that system that would’ve saved us a great deal of anguish after my father was diagnosed with both Alzheimer’s and colon cancer.

My mother also required a great deal of care as she entered her decline.  The things we had to do to just find care for her, toward the end, broke my heart.  I was glad she was no longer conscious enough to witness this.

She died believing in God and country, staunchly.

I had a few moments of serious doubt in the latter, if not the former.

I watched all of the debates.  As much news on both sides of the issues as possible—even European news, when I could.

I paid attention to races outside of my own state.  There were a few Republicans I might have voted for, but…they didn’t live in Arizona.  And the ones in Arizona scared me sideways, so...I couldn’t vote for them.

In the end, I voted mostly for Democrats, Independents and even a couple of Green Party candidates.

This is why, since you’re apparently having so much trouble figuring this out:

  1. NO one can tell me what I can or cannot do with my “reproductive system.”  At this point, old as I am, the point is moot, but my daughter’s young, and I refuse to allow anyone to legislate hers.
  2. As I said, the current health care system is broken.  And nearly broke me as I tried to deal with it.
  3. When someone calls me and the people I love lazy, and intimate that people of color or of “non-white” cultures, or who are simply poorer than they are somehow less patriotic, resourceful, ethical, honest or…fill in the rest of that as you will, I get very, very angry.   Because of the history I just offered.
  4. Countries that remain quite white, from France to Holland to…well…many places you can name yourselves, offer more “stuff” than America ever dreamt of.  Everybody pays higher taxes, everybody gets the “stuff” that buys.  I don’t hear anyone on the right side of this thing calling them lazy people who just want “stuff.”  Yet.

I’m retired now.  I retired early like my Dad, because I earned it, like my Dad.  I don’t take SSI yet.  Will soon.  Have no qualms about it.

I voted for Obama.  I am not lazy.  I don’t want “stuff.”

I want my daughter to live in a country that doesn’t make her feel “less than” because she comes from two cultures of color, and doesn’t make her wonder how she’s going to take care of me and herself as we get older.

I earned that, too.  Standing on the firm foundation laid by generations of ancestors who paid dearly to remain proud and free, before me.

Does that answer those questions?

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Comment by Ellen L. Cannon on December 21, 2012 at 10:26pm
Wanting stuff? What possible equation can explain away the fact that 1% 0f the population controls 85% of the nation's wealth (stuff)? Your post is brilliantly, heartrendingly, and proudly eloquent!
Comment by Ben Sen on November 3, 2015 at 11:38am

To me, you tell the story of a classic liberal of our generation feeling disenfranchised at one point, but then came to her senses as a response to political reality.  Can you imagine if more members of the generation had done so rather than withdraw from our form of government?

Comment by Ben Sen on November 3, 2015 at 11:39am

Where did you get all those readers?  congrats.

Comment by Ben Sen on November 17, 2015 at 10:21am

I not sure what you're saying here.  "Obama Care" doesn't cover Long Term Care services or facilities that I know of.  (Contracts differ by state)  The kind of insurance that does is called Long Term Care Insurance.  Without it, if you have the funds, you are asking for trouble.  70 per cent of us will need such services.  Otherwise, you have to apply for Medicaid and divest yourself of your assets.

Great post.  I don't think I've ever seen one from you that wasn't.

Comment by Ben Sen on June 24, 2016 at 11:39am

Yes, but imagine this: what if moderates and "independent" liberals get off their high horse for the election, Trump and the Republican Party receive a stunning defeat, like Goldwater did when he advocated repealing social security, and the Democrats take over the Presidency, the House, the Senate, and are able to install a member of the Supreme Court who is responsive to the ideals that went into creating this country?

Comment by Arthur James on June 24, 2016 at 12:27pm


Ben Sen?

Ya's sorta?


no. sorta?




We miss ` Keka.

Where Folk Go?

They wander off.




Comment by JMac1949 Today on June 24, 2016 at 1:29pm

R&L in 100% agreement. 

Comment by Doc Vega on January 4, 2017 at 3:28pm

Ben Sen a Supreme Court Justice who is responsive to the ideals that are the reasons why America was formed? Well, I hope you're not talking about Garland Merrick or Ruth Bader Ginsburg who goes to Egypt on a TV show and trashes the US Constitution when not passing out after drinking while being photographed alongside her disapproving comrades. Or should we get more leftist lesbians on the bench like Sotomayer and Kegan? Who should have recused themselves from several issues.

Comment by Doc Vega on January 4, 2017 at 3:30pm

Kosher I would venture to say that most republicans are more patriotic and more aligned with the ideals of the US Constitution than your president who expressed his disapproval of it when he entered office.

Comment by Doc Vega on January 4, 2017 at 3:33pm

Yep, nobody can tell you what to do with your reproductive system Mam so go ahead and get that troublesome fetus yanked out've there and make sure Planned Parenthood makes a nice profit on the baby's parts and of course they deserve a half billion a year of your tax dollars and everyone else's because they need that stuff (baby parts) your soap box is rotting!


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