I just got a call from Kansas City. My brother, Steve, known here as tr ig, passed away this afternoon from a heart attack. He will be missed greatly by all who knew him, including Jenny, his son Eli, and myself.

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Comment by greenheron on July 11, 2017 at 7:25am

Rodney, did you carry out his memorial service plans?

When I had my cancer diagnosis, I made a legal will at age 47. Oddly, there was a lot of relief in doing that. Now, at 63, my thoughts have changed and I'm going to do it again. In the years since cancer, I got to survive long enough to get a heart condition that required 4 hospitalizations and lovely six hour surgical procedure. I know how quickly the light can go out. 

Comment by koshersalaami on July 11, 2017 at 7:39am


You knew him better than I did

There's a whole lot of stuff here I'm not familiar with, like the bots and whatever fuckmuppet wars were

Comment by MarkinKentuckiana on July 11, 2017 at 3:07pm

I'm stunned.  My heart goes out to Jenny, Eli and you, Jeff.  He will be missed by many.

Comment by koshersalaami on July 11, 2017 at 4:04pm


I was oblivious to all of that. I found people whose writing I liked and they found me. Sure, EP's were cool, but at first I didn't go to the front page at all. I was too busy reading the posts of people I liked who came up in that feed on the right side of my page. 

I don't know how most people found OS. My way was pretty weird. I knew Jon from AOL Jewish Chat and he came over to blog. I came over to support him with his numbers, I think early in 2010. At first, I only commented on his posts. I didn't blog. People started asking me in comment streams why I didn't. Frankly, I didn't know I could. Then one day I wrote a long reply email to a conservative friend from Chat and realized it might work as a post. So I asked Jon, and he published it as coming from an anonymous friend, giving me a pseudonym. It got all sorts of comments and so I figured out I could do this. Somehow, Lezlie found my first actual post. It was an explanation of why income polarization is bad for economies. 

But I utterly didn't know about beta members or any of that crap. In fact, the way I came in was so back door that I wasn't aware of the existence of Salon.com. None of that mattered. I was conversing in a community that beat the Hell out of chat and that's all I needed. I think I ran across Tr ig pretty early, but I don't remember how or when. I remember talking to him about some post he wrote about bicycling, I think a photo essay. And all that stuff about Eli and the military. Come to think of it, I don't know if I met him before or after January 2012, which is when J died, though my first post about that I kept the comment stream to, so I suppose I could look it up. I do know that the fact that I lost my son freaked the living shit out of him - you can see why. He was always extremely supportive of me about that. 

Comment by nanatehay on July 11, 2017 at 5:04pm

Hey. Thank you, friends. Not doing well at responding to comments, but I'm reading every one of them. Tr ig is too, because he was one of the few people I know who was a bigger blog whore than me.  

dead soldiers...

Comment by nanatehay on July 11, 2017 at 5:16pm

You are right, Monkey. Also: Tr ig and I talked about Open Salon. A lot. We used to gossip like whores about OSers, and blogging generally, while drinking and smoking on his deck at Chez Cul de Sac, and I told him one time that it's really important to be honest but to never forget that blogging is as much about performance art as it is about writing. I am by no means trying to claim I was his main influence on OS or anywhere else, but I do know he took that thought and ran with it 

Comment by Safe Bet's Amy on July 11, 2017 at 5:53pm

You still weren't shit unless you attended a pirate wimmin party or said "HOLY SHIT!  It's 3 am already!!!!" while babbling weirdness in the Truck Stop.

Oh, and Trig was the indisputed king of meta-me, me, me!!!! shit.  LOL   I think he even wrote meta posts about writing meta posts, if I recall rightly.

Comment by koshersalaami on July 11, 2017 at 5:54pm


No one expects you to respond to comments. No one expects you to do anything at the moment. 

This whole world y'all are talking about is foreign to me. I'm kind of glad, actually; I think it would have driven me nuts. I would have been like "Why do we care what these jerks think? (I don't mean you, I mean the Founding Bloggers.) They're jerks, ergo their opinions don't matter."

Eventually, when covers just got too arbitrary, Amy and I (I know that doesn't sound like a phrase in English, but it happened) got fed up and founded a peer-based recognition system called Readers' Picks. As to why Amy and I, I made some remark to her about how what I valued more than EP's was a kind of comment I called a Tizback, spelled TSBAC, which stands for This Should Be A Cover. As soon as Amy heard that, she suggested we institutionalize them. We brainstormed how to do it and had it up and running in something like three days. 

Comment by greenheron on July 11, 2017 at 6:29pm

nana, the ciggies and beer I get, but what’s going on with the garden pruners? A dangerous tool for clipping toenails, in case that’s what you’re doing.

Monkey, I missed out on the backchannel pms and most of the meta at Open, and didn’t mind. It was kind of like my high school experience. I didn’t have a group, neither cool kids nor beta nor the EP crowd. For me it was a creative oasis. I love to read. I love to write. I love art. Open had gobs of all of that. 

What was a blast at Open was getting to experiment with writing in a different way, using a different language than the dry one I use for work to write proposals, curriculum descriptions, narratives, department letters etc. My posts were awkward in the beginning–the first one was about adopting a dog. Then some great people started to show up. None of the betas, not the weasel cooer, or the 14 reasons why I won’t read your blogger, or the beer and broads guy, but people like Kim, and Jeannette, and Scarlet Sumac, and Ann Nichols, and Pilgrim, who loved his backyard trees too, and who came to visit me with Mrs. Pilgrim, the only Openers I met in real life.

I’m also a reformed Bad Girl, so I eventually found tr ig, nana, Tink et. al.  A lot of times I didn’t know what was being talked about or satirized, and sometimes, weeks later, I’d run across something and go, oh, it was that. Maybe I was the only one with no alt! 

What we all seemed to like during the peak times, was that there was a room for everyone. It was like the Chelsea Hotel–gobs of talent, lots of creating and influencing, as well as drinking, fighting, and hooking up.

I would have loved to have been mosquito buzzing around listening to tr ig and nana talk about Open folks though. I hope I made the grade. Even if it was harsh, it would have been an honor :)

Comment by clay ball on July 11, 2017 at 7:47pm

  to all our angels from OS...  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZrSK-0-MQ8s


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