My brother was in a terrible car accident this week and walked away. He is extremely lucky. A car crossed the median and ran into the front and driver's side of his SUV. All the air bags inflated and EMS personnel dug him out of the passenger side of the car.
Which, by the way, is a total loss. He is fortunate and we are blessed that he's still here.
Do you tell everything you know? Do you overshare?
The accident started a bit of a family discussion about who needs to know what. The accident happened away from home, so likely won't show up in the newspaper or heard by Nosy Parkers on police scanners.
The question is: do the family member tell our elderly father? My dad is still in relatively good shape and active. He sometimes tells us things twice, and has limited his driving to daylight for errands -- bank, grocery, doctor, etc. He's closer to ninety than to eighty.
Having worked in hospitals most of my career, I fall on the side of the "need to know basis." If someone doesn't need to know something, why tell them? I have asthma and I can think of a couple of times when I've been in the hospital and not shared it with my dad. Had I been seriously ill, there might not be a choice. But I was pumped full of oxygen and steroids and good to go after a day.
Another family member says he has the "right to know.
I stopped telling my parents the gory details of my life when I was about 40. My mother is gone now, but I don't think my dad needs to know and worry about things over which he has no control.
What do you think?