It wasn't until I saw Annemarie's nice introduction post that I realized that I committed a major faux pas: I barged in here and started writing and commenting without so much as a hello. I feel like a boob. So, if anyone's interested, here are a few little nuggets about me. I'll try to keep it pithy.

Dharmabummer is a reference to Jack Kerouac’s Dharma Bums. I chose it because I identify as a spiritual slacker. I blogged under that name at Open Salon from January 2009-2010 and I remember some of you from that time but I don’t think a lot of you remember me. All I ever wrote about was sex and death.

I’m a Psychologist, yoga teacher and (in my spare time) a volunteer social worker for an agency that advocates for kids who have been abused or neglected. Since I work with kids and some emotionally unstable people I prefer to keep my real name off my blog. Also, I often say some salty and ribald things and I want to be free to continue to do so. Some of you know my real name and some of you may learn it and that’s fine but let’s keep it between us, okay?

I once massaged Peter Fonda- no, not in a sexual way, you deviants! I worked as a yoga teacher and massage therapist throughout grad school. I know it doesn’t make me cool that I massaged Peter Fonda but….. ...Captain America? Pretty freaking cool. Amirite? I also massaged Heather Graham and while she’s incredibly beautiful I have to say that I’ve never met anyone in my life with so little muscle tone. I’ve held babies that had more muscle tone. I don’t mean, “she doesn’t work out” lack of muscle tone, I mean “has this woman been carried from room to room her entire life?” lack of muscle tone. 

The skinniest veal calf EVER. But soooo lovely.

I’m only ever told that I resemble two celebrities- Jennifer Aniston and Tonya Harding*. They look nothing like each other and I look nothing like either of them but I have been told this more than once (but only by strangers). Weird.

I remain unaffiliated- I am a recovering Catholic and I practice yoga and vipassana (I tell you about that later, if you like) but I don’t completely align with any one religion or philosophy. I have ideas but not deeply held beliefs. I’m mostly Buddhist, sometimes Pastafarian, sometimes a compassionate nihilist.

Leonard Cohen is my spirit animal.

I only comment when I feel I have something to add. If I’m interested in someone then I want to know about their inner world. If I ask a question or make a comment that feels too probing or too personal, please tell me. I’m not here to antagonize anyone. 

A writer at McSweeney’s described the necessity of exercising the writing muscle and he likened it to “that machine at the gym where you open and close your legs—writing is an exercise in exposing yourself”. That works for me. I’m here to write about my passions, fears and embarrassing moments, of which I have many. I hope you enjoy.

“So come my friends be not afraid, we are so lightly here. It is in love that we are made, in love we disappear.”- Leonard Cohen

*in case y'all don't remember, that's the Olympic skater who was responsible for knee-capping Nancy Kerrigan. i don't take it as a compliment:(

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Comment by Ron Powell on October 16, 2016 at 7:12pm

You're welcome...It's my pleasure!

Your compliment is too kind...Thanks....

Comment by tr ig on October 17, 2016 at 4:55am

Kerouac Jack and his ma ma, my gf roomy, on the High plains of Colorado while back. I plan to post pretty soon ... fear I may have lost my ability to write though.

Comment by Dharmabummer on October 17, 2016 at 6:55am

Y'all are up early. 

Thanks for coming by, Terry.

Trigger your gal is lovely and so is KJ. 

I know what you mean about feeling like you've lost the ability but maybe you've just lost the inspiration. My last post was about that very thing. Post again, soon. I wanna see more of your new house. HUGS!

Comment by koshersalaami on October 17, 2016 at 8:47pm

Pleasure to meet you. Most of us were at OS at one point. I came I think in 2010, either after you left or we didn't cross paths.

Some of us put some details in our profiles. We learn about each other from reading each other, I guess. I'm fine with questions other than names in public. Let's see, introducing myself to you:

I write long comments. I teach compulsively, though it's not my living. I tend to write literally. I'm very patient with people, to the point of sometimes being criticized for it. I write about:

Economics and politics, though generally in understandable English
Jewish subjects. I'm somewhat active in a very liberal branch of my religion. Sometimes I write about religion in general
Bigotry. It drives me nuts, regardless of the identity of the target.
Music. I've played a lot of instruments in a lot of genres. I am not a professional and never have been, though I've played out
My late son, whose name I abbreviate "J" here. He had cerebral palsy, fairly severe, though his mind was unaffected. 
....I was his primary caregiver. He died at three months short of 18 in January of 2012. This is just a point of information.
Anything else that pops into my head, and that anything is a very wide category. 

I'm in my early sixties. I've been married for over half my life. 
I lived in North Carolina for years. I grew up in New York.
Anything else you want to know, ask. 

Comment by Dharmabummer on October 18, 2016 at 7:23am

Kosh: Thank you so much for introducing yourself. You are both patient and courteous! And yes, I've enjoyed some of your long comments. I liked your musings on Zanelle's 'art and beauty' post so much that I requested a full post on it. The bit about 'fire being a process'? Yes, please go on.

And I know you mentioned the passing of your son J as just a point of information-- presumably to convey that you're not looking for my sympathy-- but you have it anyway. Are you familiar with Edward Hirsh's book-length elegy "Gabriel"? It's so sad and beautiful. You and he have had similar experiences, I think. I will share a bit, if that's okay. 

"I did not know the work of mourning

Is like carrying a bag of cement

up a mountain at night

The mountaintop is not in sight

Because there is no mountaintop

Poor Sisyphus grief

I did not know I would struggle

Through a ragged underbrush

without an upward path

Because there is no path

There is only a blunt rock

with a river to fall into

And Time with its medieval chambers

Time with its jagged edges

And blunt instruments

I did not know the work of mourning

Is a labor in the dark

We carry inside ourselves

Though sometimes when I sleep

I am with him again

And then I wake

Poor Sisyphus grief

I am not ready for your heaviness

cemented to my body

Look closely and you will see

Almost everyone carrying bags

Of cement on their shoulders

That's why it takes courage

To get out of bed in the morning

And climb into the day" 

Comment by Boanerges on October 21, 2016 at 6:26am

Well, Dharma, let me echo everyone else and say, "Welcome aboard". I've seen your name here (and on Open, if I recall rightly), but didn't really know anything about you, except by inference; I'm glad to learn more.

Comment by Ben Sen on October 21, 2016 at 7:23am

Never got into Cohen though friends think I am because I'm a long time committed Zenman.  I find him pretentious and sentimental.  I much prefer Van Morrison and Dylan.  Nice writing.

Comment by Dharmabummer on October 21, 2016 at 8:34am

Hi, Boanerges! I remember your name from old OS, too. Looking forward to reading more about you, too:)

Ben: Thank you! And fair criticism re: Cohen. But then, I am a sentimental person...

I also love Van Morrison. Funny story: Years ago I gave my conservative and religious mother a copy of Avalon Sunset,  thinking she would love the spiritual songs but I was shocked when she said she was so offended and couldn't listen to it. WHA? (You know where this is going, right?) In the song 'Coney Island' he says over and over again how 'the craic was good'. Ignorant to the Irish term for good fun, she thought he was talking about crack cocaine. We had a good craic over that one!

Comment by Annmarie Handley on October 21, 2016 at 12:58pm

Hello!  I absolutely loved your introduction and wish mine had been half as cool (I now feel like nothing of consequence has happened to me...I need to start massaging more people).  We are kindred spirits in deeply loving L.C.  How could one person be so f'ing poetic, deep, and deviant at the same time?!  He's like the world's most perfect bad boy.

So very nice to make your acquaintance.


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