Robert Starkey's Blog (69)

Coffey Park video (Eleven Heartbreaking Minutes)

This is the first thing I've done that feels like it even comes close to conveying the magnitude of what we have experienced in Sonoma County and Santa Rosa.  …

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Added by Robert Starkey on November 9, 2017 at 3:54pm — 3 Comments

After The Wine Country Fires

This is not a reality TV show! This really happened to hundreds of thousands of people and animals. While the rest of the world gets to change the channel, or “go on with their lives,” most of us in the middle of this…

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Added by Robert Starkey on November 7, 2017 at 8:59am — 4 Comments

I Can’t Imagine What You’re Going Through!

Two weeks ago almost to this moment, the lives of me and many of my friends changed forever. Today, I kept recalling a statement that I’ve heard in almost every situation like the one me and my friends just…

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Added by Robert Starkey on October 22, 2017 at 10:30pm — 15 Comments

Yes, My House Is Still Standing, But...

This morning I am forced to come to terms with the reality of how media affects our concept of disasters. As the fires approached my community of Oakmont, California in the early hours of Monday morning,…

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Added by Robert Starkey on October 19, 2017 at 6:01am — 3 Comments

Wine Country Wildfires (Retrospective of a Community In Crisis)

For the rest of the world to truly understand what we are going through, I offer this photographic retrospective. It’s impossible to find adequate words to express the loss and anguish I am experiencing during the Wine…

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Added by Robert Starkey on October 13, 2017 at 12:26pm — 6 Comments

In The Center Of A Firestorm

Sunday morning was as normal as any day in my life. My friend Nikki dropped me off in my driveway after our daily 2 1/2 hour walk around Spring Lake with her dog Beso. I closed the car…

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Added by Robert Starkey on October 11, 2017 at 6:00pm — 11 Comments

Dreams Can Come True

When I was 17 years old, living in Central Illinois, I felt completely separated from my peers in high school. While others my age were dating and dancing, I was reading copies of the Sunday New York Times and dreaming of traveling to exotic destinations around the…

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Added by Robert Starkey on September 26, 2017 at 8:30pm — 6 Comments

August 12, 1972, My Last Day Of Innocence

In the summer of 1972 I was still pretty naive about the real world. I still lived in my midwestern hometown with my husband Larry. We were still essentially in the closet, although we had been together 6…

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Added by Robert Starkey on August 11, 2017 at 9:29pm — 5 Comments

Conspiracy of Words, Decline of an Empire

When my partner Rob and I first arrived on the south coast of the island of Crete, in 1991, it was a Swiss tourist who first realized that we were a gay couple. Barbara was the kind of person who would innocently blurt out what was on her mind. After we confirmed her suspicions, it was less than 24…

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Added by Robert Starkey on August 7, 2017 at 7:30am — 11 Comments

Father's Day 2017 (Letter From My Dad)

On this Father's Day I want to let my father speak for himself. I'm sure you'll all understand why I think so much of my father after you read this letter to me, written 43 years ago when I came out. …

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Added by Robert Starkey on June 16, 2017 at 8:45pm — 4 Comments

Long Live Rob and Bob

Exactly twenty-two years ago today I mourned the death of Rob and Bob. It has taken twenty-two years for me to finally realize that we were indeed invincible. We created a bond that cannot be broken, even in death.…

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Added by Robert Starkey on June 1, 2017 at 1:30am — 2 Comments

On The Thirty-Seventh Anniversary of Rob and Bob

There are those who believe time is neither an event nor a thing, but an intellectual construct. Others believe it is a structure in which events actually occur in sequence. If asked to choose between the philosophical or the…

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Added by Robert Starkey on April 18, 2017 at 6:19am — 5 Comments

Zoe's Table

My first recollection that Sonoma Valley Regional Park even existed, was from passing the sign at the edge of Highway 12, on my way from George Ranch to Santa Rosa in the summers of 2003 to 2006. There was no way I could have imagined then, that this place I barely acknowledged…

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Added by Robert Starkey on April 15, 2017 at 8:00pm — 6 Comments

SUICIDE

I’m going to go out on another limb here and talk about suicide, because I believe it is another taboo that needs to be broken! One of the most frequent observations made about suicide is about how awful it…

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Added by Robert Starkey on April 7, 2017 at 9:00pm — 5 Comments

Kriemhild



Lately, I wake in the middle of the night unable to go back to sleep. My insomnia is induced by my memories of a weekend in Weimar Germany, 26 years ago. That weekend was a transformational moment in my life, as it inspired me to interview other Germans…

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Added by Robert Starkey on March 5, 2017 at 12:52pm — 8 Comments

Joyce Tufts (Rest In Peace)

Alyson Tufts, Lucy and Joyce Tufts

A textbook definition of personality might read something like this. It’s a complex trait that is influenced by multiple genetic and environmental factors. So I believe…

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Added by Robert Starkey on February 24, 2017 at 8:30am — 2 Comments

The American Nightmare #45



Every morning when I awaken, I go to my computer to see if anyone has come up with a formula to save us from this horrible nightmare we find ourselves captive in. I have been taught to believe in heroes. I have been taught to believe there is good in…

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Added by Robert Starkey on February 20, 2017 at 5:19pm — 8 Comments

Bless Her Heart

IN MEMORY OF SANDY TRINKLE

When my mother sent me off to school for the first…

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Added by Robert Starkey on February 9, 2017 at 7:56pm — 7 Comments

THE SECRETS OF DYING _ REVEALED

Death _ The Greatest Teacher!

When I first arrived in San Francisco in the early 1980s, I came with many of the same expectations of other Gay immigrants. Of…

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Added by Robert Starkey on February 7, 2017 at 9:00am — 17 Comments

RIP Mickey Mouse





I woke up on the morning of my birthday to find that I had no internet connection. The next day I discovered a rat had eaten through the wires. I placed a trap in the crawl space beneath the house, but the trap remained empty for a…

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Added by Robert Starkey on February 2, 2017 at 1:55pm — 4 Comments

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