In the summer of 1972 I was still pretty naive about the real world. I still lived in my midwestern hometown with my husband Larry. We were still essentially in the closet, although we had been together 6…Continue
When my partner Rob and I first arrived on the south coast of the island of Crete, in 1991, it was a Swiss tourist who first realized that we were a gay couple. Barbara was the kind of person who would innocently blurt out what was on her mind. After we confirmed her suspicions, it was less than 24…Continue
On this Father's Day I want to let my father speak for himself. I'm sure you'll all understand why I think so much of my father after you read this letter to me, written 43 years ago when I came out. …Continue
Exactly twenty-two years ago today I mourned the death of Rob and Bob. It has taken twenty-two years for me to finally realize that we were indeed invincible. We created a bond that cannot be broken, even in death.…Continue
There are those who believe time is neither an event nor a thing, but an intellectual construct. Others believe it is a structure in which events actually occur in sequence. If asked to choose between the philosophical or the…Continue
My first recollection that Sonoma Valley Regional Park even existed, was from passing the sign at the edge of Highway 12, on my way from George Ranch to Santa Rosa in the summers of 2003 to 2006. There was no way I could have imagined then, that this place I barely acknowledged…Continue
I’m going to go out on another limb here and talk about suicide, because I believe it is another taboo that needs to be broken! One of the most frequent observations made about suicide is about how awful it…Continue
Lately, I wake in the middle of the night unable to go back to sleep. My insomnia is induced by my memories of a weekend in Weimar Germany, 26 years ago. That weekend was a transformational moment in my life, as it inspired me to interview other Germans…Continue
Alyson Tufts, Lucy and Joyce Tufts
A textbook definition of personality might read something like this. It’s a complex trait that is influenced by multiple genetic and environmental factors. So I believe…Continue
Every morning when I awaken, I go to my computer to see if anyone has come up with a formula to save us from this horrible nightmare we find ourselves captive in. I have been taught to believe in heroes. I have been taught to believe there is good in…Continue
IN MEMORY OF SANDY TRINKLE
When my mother sent me off to school for the first…Continue
Death _ The Greatest Teacher!
When I first arrived in San Francisco in the early 1980s, I came with many of the same expectations of other Gay immigrants. Of…Continue
I woke up on the morning of my birthday to find that I had no internet connection. The next day I discovered a rat had eaten through the wires. I placed a trap in the crawl space beneath the house, but the trap remained empty for a…Continue
I have a friend around my age who was enrolled in Yale University in the late 1960s. When he approached a Yale University counselor about his homosexuality, instead of counseling him on how to accept his sexuality, the counselor contacted his parents. His…Continue
When World War One broke out in 1914, you remained neutral until 1917, sending two million soldiers, losing 50,00 lives.
Your homes, your cities,…Continue
Thankful for all my friends who opened my understanding of a bigger world.
Thanks to Mae Chao who invited us to our first Chinese tea ceremony…Continue
When I was a child my father arose every morning at 4:30 AM to prepare for his job at General Motors, Central Foundry, in Danville, Illinois. My earliest conscious memories are the smell of bacon and coffee, like smelling salts, pulling me out of deep sleep into lucid dreams. I…Continue
I was twelve years old when I had the courage to admit to myself that I loved men “in that way!” In 1961, even that secret internal acknowledgment took a great deal of courage. It came wrapped in…Continue