Robert Starkey's Blog (62)

August 12, 1972, My Last Day Of Innocence

In the summer of 1972 I was still pretty naive about the real world. I still lived in my midwestern hometown with my husband Larry. We were still essentially in the closet, although we had been together 6…

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Added by Robert Starkey on August 11, 2017 at 9:29pm — 6 Comments

Conspiracy of Words, Decline of an Empire

When my partner Rob and I first arrived on the south coast of the island of Crete, in 1991, it was a Swiss tourist who first realized that we were a gay couple. Barbara was the kind of person who would innocently blurt out what was on her mind. After we confirmed her suspicions, it was less than 24…

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Added by Robert Starkey on August 7, 2017 at 7:30am — 11 Comments

Father's Day 2017 (Letter From My Dad)

On this Father's Day I want to let my father speak for himself. I'm sure you'll all understand why I think so much of my father after you read this letter to me, written 43 years ago when I came out. …

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Added by Robert Starkey on June 16, 2017 at 8:45pm — 5 Comments

Long Live Rob and Bob

Exactly twenty-two years ago today I mourned the death of Rob and Bob. It has taken twenty-two years for me to finally realize that we were indeed invincible. We created a bond that cannot be broken, even in death.…

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Added by Robert Starkey on June 1, 2017 at 1:30am — 2 Comments

On The Thirty-Seventh Anniversary of Rob and Bob

There are those who believe time is neither an event nor a thing, but an intellectual construct. Others believe it is a structure in which events actually occur in sequence. If asked to choose between the philosophical or the…

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Added by Robert Starkey on April 18, 2017 at 6:19am — 5 Comments

Zoe's Table

My first recollection that Sonoma Valley Regional Park even existed, was from passing the sign at the edge of Highway 12, on my way from George Ranch to Santa Rosa in the summers of 2003 to 2006. There was no way I could have imagined then, that this place I barely acknowledged…

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Added by Robert Starkey on April 15, 2017 at 8:00pm — 6 Comments

SUICIDE

I’m going to go out on another limb here and talk about suicide, because I believe it is another taboo that needs to be broken! One of the most frequent observations made about suicide is about how awful it…

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Added by Robert Starkey on April 7, 2017 at 9:00pm — 5 Comments

Kriemhild



Lately, I wake in the middle of the night unable to go back to sleep. My insomnia is induced by my memories of a weekend in Weimar Germany, 26 years ago. That weekend was a transformational moment in my life, as it inspired me to interview other Germans…

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Added by Robert Starkey on March 5, 2017 at 12:52pm — 8 Comments

Joyce Tufts (Rest In Peace)

Alyson Tufts, Lucy and Joyce Tufts

A textbook definition of personality might read something like this. It’s a complex trait that is influenced by multiple genetic and environmental factors. So I believe…

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Added by Robert Starkey on February 24, 2017 at 8:30am — 2 Comments

The American Nightmare #45



Every morning when I awaken, I go to my computer to see if anyone has come up with a formula to save us from this horrible nightmare we find ourselves captive in. I have been taught to believe in heroes. I have been taught to believe there is good in…

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Added by Robert Starkey on February 20, 2017 at 5:19pm — 8 Comments

Bless Her Heart

IN MEMORY OF SANDY TRINKLE

When my mother sent me off to school for the first…

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Added by Robert Starkey on February 9, 2017 at 7:56pm — 7 Comments

THE SECRETS OF DYING _ REVEALED

Death _ The Greatest Teacher!

When I first arrived in San Francisco in the early 1980s, I came with many of the same expectations of other Gay immigrants. Of…

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Added by Robert Starkey on February 7, 2017 at 9:00am — 17 Comments

RIP Mickey Mouse





I woke up on the morning of my birthday to find that I had no internet connection. The next day I discovered a rat had eaten through the wires. I placed a trap in the crawl space beneath the house, but the trap remained empty for a…

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Added by Robert Starkey on February 2, 2017 at 1:55pm — 4 Comments

In These Dark Times

I have a friend around my age who was enrolled in Yale University in the late 1960s. When he approached a Yale University counselor about his homosexuality, instead of counseling him on how to accept his sexuality, the counselor contacted his parents. His…

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Added by Robert Starkey on December 6, 2016 at 3:30pm — 11 Comments

A MESSAGE FOR AMERICANS (from the rest of the world)

When World War One broke out in 1914, you remained neutral until 1917, sending two million soldiers, losing 50,00 lives. 

Your homes, your cities,…

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Added by Robert Starkey on November 29, 2016 at 12:00pm — 7 Comments

Thank You From The Bottom Of My Heart

Thankful for all my friends who opened my understanding of a bigger world. 

Thanks to Mae Chao who invited us to our first Chinese tea ceremony…

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Added by Robert Starkey on November 24, 2016 at 11:00am — 5 Comments

I Stand With Standing Rock!

When I was a child my father arose every morning at 4:30 AM to prepare for his job at General Motors, Central Foundry, in Danville, Illinois. My earliest conscious memories are the smell of bacon and coffee, like smelling salts, pulling me out of deep sleep into lucid dreams. I…

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Added by Robert Starkey on November 22, 2016 at 7:30am — 5 Comments

Gandhi Had The Answer

AND IT WORKED!

Added by Robert Starkey on November 19, 2016 at 10:15am — 15 Comments

For The Love Of My Father, For The Love Of Soldiers

I was twelve years old when I had the courage to admit to myself that I loved  men “in that way!” In 1961, even that secret internal acknowledgment took a great deal of courage. It came wrapped in…

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Added by Robert Starkey on November 11, 2016 at 5:59pm — 5 Comments

COMMUNING WITH A COYOTE



Three years ago today my beloved dog Zoe walked off the pavement at Spring Lake Park, sat down and refused to…

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Added by Robert Starkey on October 4, 2016 at 1:37pm — 18 Comments

NEW BLOG POSTS

Seriously???

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windows

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LennyDonny

Posted by Jonathan Wolfman on August 23, 2017 at 2:30am 3 Comments

President of Arizona

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Post Eclipse Blues

Posted by J.P. Hart on August 22, 2017 at 11:34am 4 Comments

Ita nos, qui vere stulti sunt!

Posted by Safe Bet's Amy on August 22, 2017 at 11:30am 8 Comments

a guest post upon my return ...

Posted by ABG 2.0 on August 22, 2017 at 9:31am 7 Comments

Tequila Anyone?

Posted by Ron Powell on August 22, 2017 at 6:30am 27 Comments

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