Barbara Weicksel's Blog (11)

The road up and the road down is one and the same

My emotions have been running the gamut since my mother passed away on November 11. I can go from feeling perfectly happy to anger and feeling just down-right morose in a matter of seconds. Granted, I have always had the ability to be a little moody, but this – this I don’t seem to have any control over. Emotions seem to come and go in the blink of an eye. I’m aware of the whole grief thing, and I believe I expect way too much of myself sometimes. I’m trying to just allow myself to feel…

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Added by Barbara Weicksel on December 4, 2012 at 2:57pm — 5 Comments

A Thanksgiving for Orphans

I understand I’m not the first child to have buried both of their parents; it’s just that this is the first Holiday in which this is the reality for me. My father passed in July of 2010, and I buried my mother 5 days ago. The realization of what this means has finally come home to roost in my head and in my heart.

I’m basically an orphan; for that is what a child is who has no parents. For whatever reason, no matter your age; when your parents are no longer with you – you are an…

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Added by Barbara Weicksel on November 23, 2012 at 11:22am — 3 Comments

Chick-Fil-A and the Gay Oreo Cookie.

I just spent a week in the bosom of my family – not by choice – but because my mother passed away suddenly and I went home to honor her memory and lay her to rest beside her Mother and Father.

To be clear – most of my family has no idea who I am.  I left the place of my birth and the people with whom I share a blood connection over 30 years ago, and most of them don’t understand why I left or why on earth I haven’t returned! In their minds-eye I’m whatever age they remember me being…

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Added by Barbara Weicksel on November 21, 2012 at 11:24am — 1 Comment

The Art of Maturing

I got an email this morning from my ex-husband.  Whenever I turn on the computer and see his name in the in-box, my heart stops for a few seconds. See - We rarely speak and when we do it isn't always pleasant or mature. Sometimes it’s just down-right childish.

But this morning he wrote to tell me that his Father had passed away last evening. He just thought I would want to know.  My emotions surprised me as I was sad – very sad – at the news. His Father was sweet and funny and always…

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Added by Barbara Weicksel on October 24, 2012 at 11:22am — 3 Comments

Surviving my own personal hell, living through "dyke to wife" reparative therapy

California Gov. Jerry Brown on Saturday, Sept. 29, 2012 signed Senate Bill 1172 to ban “reparative therapy” for minors.

With this historic legislation, California becomes the first state to ban licensed mental health professionals from practicing psychological therapy aimed at turning gay and lesbian youth straight – a controversial practice also known as “ex-gay” therapy, conversion therapy and sexual reorientation.

To put it in plain terms –…

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Added by Barbara Weicksel on October 6, 2012 at 6:17pm — 3 Comments

How Do You Measure Success?

I was told many times in my life I would never be a success, I believe the phrase was: “You’ll never amount to anything.”  I heard it so often, I started to believe it. My parents never encouraged me, never pushed me, never expected great things from me, in turn I didn’t expect great things from me either.

How does one measure success? Is it by how much money you have? How many children you have? How many times you have or haven’t been married? How many friends you have? What sort of…

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Added by Barbara Weicksel on September 26, 2012 at 10:50am — 2 Comments

Our Lives Are Lived In Moments.

I found out that a classmate of mine from High School passed away last week.  I haven’t seen him since graduation some 42 years ago, but I remember him quite vividly.  He was smart, funny and kind and he was the best Conrad Birdie in our adaptation of Bye Bye Birdie. His last name started with a G, mine with an H, so we shared a homeroom all through high school. He could always make me laugh which always started my day out with a smile.

He died doing the things he loved and he was…

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Added by Barbara Weicksel on September 17, 2012 at 1:22pm — 6 Comments

The Lessons of Las Vegas.

I wonder if the people who go to Las Vegas know that the United States is facing an economical challenge. I also wonder if they know and understand that people are not supposed to have money to burn. I only ask this because I’ve seen a whole lot of people throwing money into machines and on tables and at scantily clad women while I’ve been in Las Vegas the past few days.

If I were not a person who read or watched television and only based my knowledge of the condition of the American…

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Added by Barbara Weicksel on September 13, 2012 at 2:04pm — 4 Comments

No Political Party Will Ever Regulate Love.

No matter who gets elected in November – no matter who makes the laws – no matter what religious zealots say; there is no one on the face of this earth, or any other earth, who will ever be able to regulate with whom a person falls in love.

 Same-sex people, people from different races, people of different religions, young and old, old and young, even a woman and a man – folks are going to fall in love and enter into some sort of relationship. You cannot regulate love – no matter how…

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Added by Barbara Weicksel on September 6, 2012 at 11:45am — 3 Comments

Hate is Easy. Love Takes Courage.

I saw those two sentences in an article I was reading this morning, and I suddenly understood why folks are so hateful.  It’s easy.

It doesn't take a whole lot of brain power to go from; “My life sucks: to: “I’m going blame ________ (fill in the blank) for that.”   It especially doesn't take much brain power when you have politicians, ministers and priests all telling you who to blame for your lot in life.  They aren't asking you to love _________ (fill in the blank); they are telling…

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Added by Barbara Weicksel on August 28, 2012 at 6:15pm — 6 Comments

Don't Ever, Ever Question My Character

I had someone question my character this week.  Someone I thought was a friend, someone I thought had my back, someone I thought cared about me, someone who is a member of my family – blood – you know – the tie that binds…

I suppose I had it coming as I told her I had stopped her pictures and sayings from racist, homophobic, anti-Obama pages on Facebook coming to my news-feed. Let’s be clear – I never called her a racist or said she was homophobic – I simply said I didn’t want that…

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Added by Barbara Weicksel on August 3, 2012 at 9:53am — 1 Comment

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