All Blog Posts Tagged 'LGBT' (135)

Noticing The Differences Between Then And Now

I was still in a bit of shock at this time last year. My father had died a month earlier, my mother and I were physically and mentally exhausted, and I had to plan Christmas dinner for her, my husband, and my grandmother. His Majesty had lost his father two years earlier, my grandmother lost her husband a couple years before that, and we were all dealing with our grief. It didn’t exactly make for a happy holiday. Now, another year has gone by.

It seemed as if 2016 was going to ignore…


Added by Kage Alan on December 22, 2016 at 6:30am — 4 Comments

Probably Why I Turned Out To Be A Slightly Mild Pervert

Friends and frenemies have mentioned at some point during my years knowing them that I can be a bit of a pervert. It’s often said with affection, so it never worries me. It occurred to me that it’s even kind of fun. Who doesn’t like to have a little perverted side to share with close friends or people you pretend to like once in a while? It didn’t occur to me, however, to wonder where this side came from. Until today. Well, yesterday when I wrote this.

One need only look back at my…


Added by Kage Alan on December 8, 2016 at 6:30am — 6 Comments

Against Better Judgement, I’m Going To Tell You It’s Real

I tend to roll my eyes while watching films that fall back on or overuse what’s termed potty humor. More specifically, movies that rely on extended scenes of flatulence or someone on the toilet experiencing gastric anomalies beyond comprehension. The only actor who could pull that off in any way was Leslie Nielson. Have you ever watched interviews with him when he had his fart machine in tow? Hilarious! But Nielson was a rarity. An example of a lesser scene might be the first American Pie…


Added by Kage Alan on December 5, 2016 at 6:30am — 4 Comments

World AIDS Day

by Tommi Avicolli Mecca

Simeon, at 16 you helped desegregate lunch counters in your hometown of Kinston, North Carolina. You taught me so much about nonviolent struggle. You were my hero.

Saj, I'll never forget how you outsmarted that NJ state trooper who was so eager to bust us. Your words to me that final time I saw you will remain with me forever.

Steven, thanks for the flower in my hair at Philly pride 1972 and for the good times at La Maison…


Added by Tommi Avicolli Mecca on December 1, 2016 at 9:00am — 2 Comments

In The Spirit? Not Yet.

If I go on how things have been by this date during the past ten years, I would have all my Christmas cards made out and ready for His Majesty to sign, 95% of my Christmas shopping completed, the house completely decorated, the holiday feasts planned, Christmas music playing, and the holiday spirit. Not this year.

I think I became a huge planner during my father’s time with Alzheimer’s. If I didn’t plan, things didn’t get done, or there was hardship if delays occurred. It was just…


Added by Kage Alan on November 21, 2016 at 6:30am — 5 Comments

I Will Remember

I remember a time way back in grade school when being called gay meant your peers wanted you to see yourself as being very limp-wristed and feminine. I say they wanted you to see yourself as that not because they actually saw you in that light, but because you were different, and it was the only way they knew to describe that difference. Being gay back then meant, in their minds, as having to conform to the stereotype. I was definitely gay, just not the stereotype, which confused everybody,…


Added by Kage Alan on November 17, 2016 at 6:30am — 11 Comments

The transformation of vulnerability into power and action

I stopped being afraid once I came out of the closet.

I didn’t stop being afraid the first time that I said, out loud, repeating the words of Audre Lorde: “I am a black woman warrior poet doing my work – come to ask you, are you doing yours?” No, the end of fear was a long process, not an instant.

And I didn’t stop having moments of fear or panic. Those come, sometimes with great force, and often early in the morning, in the darkness, in the silence.

What I…


Added by SeventhSister on November 10, 2016 at 5:35pm — 6 Comments

Post election manifesto



As a working-class, southern Italian faggot I have never felt in more danger.

I hear calls from the mindless mainstream media for the country to heal and unify. I won't heal. I won't unify with those who voted for the monster the mindless mainstream media helped create. This country can never be "healed" as long as racism, sexism, homophobia/transphobia, ageism, ableism, classism, etc. continue to make some…


Added by Tommi Avicolli Mecca on November 9, 2016 at 9:00am — 6 Comments


by Tommi Avicolli Mecca

You heard me. Put it down. I don’t care if it says “LGBTs for Trump.” An audience member at that Greeley, Colorado rally held it and you took it and paraded around the stage with it. You have no right to touch the rainbow flag.

You’re not pro-queer or pro-trans. You’re not my friend. 

Perhaps it was a Halloween joke. Is that it, Donald? Were you actually mocking my community? That’s easier for me to believe…


Added by Tommi Avicolli Mecca on November 1, 2016 at 7:30am — 5 Comments

Halloween IS a gay holiday

by Tommi Avicolli Mecca

Halloween has always been a gay holiday. 

The reason is simple: it was the one day of the year when queers could be ourselves without risking our necks. 

Once upon a time in a universe not that far away and certainly not that long ago, life was a hell of a lot tougher for queer and trans folks than a lot of young people today can ever imagine. Not only weren’t there laws protecting sexual and gender identity…


Added by Tommi Avicolli Mecca on October 30, 2016 at 12:34pm — 3 Comments

Results of Mentally Dissecting the Asian and Gweilo Brain

Results of Mentally Dissecting the Asian and Gweilo Brain

My husband and I used to have really cute little huggalicious nicknames for each other during the first couple of years we were going out…like Pookie or Luv Muffin. Those have changed over the years as we’ve grown together and mentally dissected each other’s brain. I now call him “my little basket of black widow spiders,” or “my nest of vipers,” “my Khan,” or “His Majesty”, while his favorite nickname for me is “What is wrong…


Added by Kage Alan on October 17, 2016 at 6:30am — 7 Comments

This violent country

by Tommi Avicolli Mecca

Yesterday, my friend Alison and I arrived at the Main Library here in San Francisco only to find that access was all but blocked by police cars and caution tape. A drama was unfolding. A guy had an assault gun and was threatening to shoot others and/or kill himself.

It was another day in an America that has become synonymous with violence: police shootings of unarmed black men, endless wars in other countries,…


Added by Tommi Avicolli Mecca on September 25, 2016 at 12:07pm — 9 Comments

What You’ll Never See In A Haunted House/Demon/Demonic Possession Movie

The LGBTQ community. That’s what you won’t see. Eddie Murphy had it right back when he recorded Comedian about never seeing black people in horror movies. If he’d filmed it these days, he’d have been more specific and said they were no heterosexual black people. Why? They’re too smart. White folks, on the other hand, aren’t too bright. At least in the horror genre. Gays and lesbians (white, black, Asian, or any other ethnicity) are like heterosexual black folks in that respect because we…


Added by Kage Alan on September 19, 2016 at 7:00am — 3 Comments

Westboro Church: 92 / DragonCon: 70,000

“I sense a great disturbance in The Force. Sorry…I mean The Farce. Huge difference. One vowel, but a huge difference.”

Anybody still remember the Westboro Baptist Church? I know. It’s been a while since we’ve heard from them on any major level. PR isn’t what it used to be, and with their former leader still in sensitivity classes in the afterlife, cray-cray has become a bit overrated. Oh, they tried to demonstrate in Orlando, Florida after the terror attack at Pulse, only that…


Added by Kage Alan on August 30, 2016 at 6:30am — 7 Comments

His Majesty Blessed Me With A Weekend Visit

His Majesty, my husband, flew home for the weekend this past Thursday. The last time I saw him was in London at the beginning of July. Prior to that, I think he was home in April, but I did see him in May during OutlantaCon in Atlanta. It’s been that kind of a year for us in terms of scheduling time together. There’s also a learning curve for us both when we do see each other from one visit to the next. He no sooner climbed into our vehicle after some poor, random person he mistook for a…


Added by Kage Alan on August 15, 2016 at 6:30am — 4 Comments

A Third Anniversary, And Why I Thought I Had Mystical Powers

Yesterday was a day of anniversaries. The big one, though, was the third anniversary of my spending the first night in our house after moving in. My father-in-law, whose house it had been, passed away five months earlier, and we’d gutted and redesigned the kitchen, had the whole inside repainted, and put in new carpet. The moving everything around so we could do these things is why I ended up with a hernia. But, we moved in on time after my surgery with a whole lot of help from my friend…


Added by Kage Alan on August 11, 2016 at 6:30am — 7 Comments

Watching the Republican Convention Liberals Need to be Aware of Their Own Blind Spots



Watching the Republican Convention tonight on the west coast I have to remind myself that all of this took place hours ago.  Living in the Eastern Time Zone gets one used to seeing things more or less in real time.

It has been physically exhausting and emotionally painful listening to the speakers.  Ordinarily, amateur…


Added by Rodney Roe on July 19, 2016 at 4:30am — 16 Comments

Pope Francis: an apology is not enough

by Tommi Avicolli Mecca

A new day at the Vatican? Could be. At least a little bit of sunshine has been allowed to fall into dusty old windows and halls that have rarely seen much light in the past twenty centuries. 

Returning from Armenia in his papal plane, Pope Francis told reporters on the day after millions celebrated LGBT pride in the U.S.: “I believe that the church not only should apologize to the person who is gay whom it has…


Added by Tommi Avicolli Mecca on June 27, 2016 at 8:05am — 8 Comments

A Birthday Message For Little Brother L.A.M. (Little Asian Meanie)

“You need to think about what you said!”

Those words have been seared into my memory for nearly sixteen years now. He was very, very angry with me when he said them. What was it about? I honestly don’t remember, and it wasn’t the first time he yelled at me online. That was back when he couldn’t help but yell at people online. That was his thing. He signed off of AOL a few moments later while I continued doing whatever it was I was doing, his words still hanging in the air and on my…


Added by Kage Alan on June 27, 2016 at 6:00am — 8 Comments

And now for something completely different...

And now for something completely different: Christians must apologize to gay people for marginalizing them:…


Added by JMac1949 Today on June 26, 2016 at 4:14pm — 42 Comments

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