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Having a Passive Aggressive Christmas

The box arrived Thursday night; I knew not to open it. Even though the next day dear daughter would be picked up by her dad and not return until New Year's, I figure waiting that long for more presents she didn't know existed would be a small price to pay for my mental sanity.

I was still psyching myself up to run in a marathon, even though my attempted 20 mile training run over Thanksgiving was shot all to hell: I had stopped and came home shortly after 13 miles, at the start of my…


Added by Jewellya on December 23, 2012 at 1:30pm — 4 Comments

One Former Healthcare Professional’s Inside Take on What is NOT Being Seriously Discussed


While the autopsy results on mass-child-murderer, Adam Lanza, may not be published for some time, the most recent, U.S. Department of Justice Report on Alcohol and Crime found that alcohol use was a factor in 40 percent of violent crimes committed in the U.S. and in May, 2012, U.S. crime statistics revealed that illegal drugs play a central role in criminal acts, providing verifiable evidence that tackling drugs as a public health issue could offer a powerful tool for lowering… Continue

Added by Ellen L. Cannon on December 18, 2012 at 10:00am — 19 Comments

Maintaining Focus

Dear Tony,

One point which is both very difficult and very important is not to think too far ahead.

In her book Nadia Comaneci said that when she was growing up and training for the Olympics her dreams were of obtaining new skills. She never saw the larger picture of fame and fortune. Admittedly, she grew up in strict conditions in a Communist country. Those conditions can’t and probably shouldn’t be replicated in this area today. But I have found that idea of simply focusing…


Added by Ariose Osciola on December 13, 2012 at 7:12pm — 1 Comment

Coping with Outside Stress

This letter was originally written the week Osama bin Ladin was killed:

Dear Tony,

I will admit that the events going on in the outside world can leave us shaken.

We build a foundation very slowly, piece by piece, around our understanding of the outside world. A surprise announcement like the one we had this week — even good news — can seriously disrupt that foundation.

Many people would admit to some of the same feelings, but I think some of our feelings are…


Added by Ariose Osciola on December 13, 2012 at 7:12pm — No Comments

Recommended Reading

Dear Tony,

In order to improve, you need to figure out what you really need.

My most recommended books are the ones by Bruce Perry, a child psychiatrist. He has two books: The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog and Born for Love. His ideas have formed the basis of my own treatment. To grossly simplify his theories, if a child has a trauma at a young age it does not necessarily matter what they consciously remember or how they feel about it years later. If a child has…


Added by Ariose Osciola on December 13, 2012 at 7:10pm — No Comments


Today the scale said 200lbs after a couple weeks of upward creep. Decisions about the holidays and my kid, a plethora of office sweets, and fewer hours of sunlight have made me feel less than stellar while I watch time’s unceasing march toward December 22nd, when I will truly challenge myself to do something I do not yet know I can do. There is a marathon to be run. I discovered the other day that there are members of the military on the wait-list hoping for a spot to free up. I…


Added by Jewellya on December 13, 2012 at 2:17pm — 10 Comments

Better is Better

She’s better, she’s pretty much back to normal, for her, I would say we are back to baseline.  Better is indeed better.

It took a few days, it took some angst on my part, it took first rate care on the part of all who care for Marty, it took a lot of gator aid, Diet Coke, soup, Ginger Ale, cranberry juice and Imodium, but we got there last Saturday night, about three days post hospital.  That’s when Marty got back to her normal hypertensive self.

The week of the relatively…


Added by Marty'sHusband on December 11, 2012 at 4:01pm — 10 Comments

Facing Parkinson's Disease

The gods are crying—really, they’re urinating—on 405 freeway. Rubber chafes glass, like a metronome, as my husband asks, “Babe, is there a faster speed on your windshield wiper setting? I can’t see.” He drives in the slow lane as cars fly by us. A white Mercedes in the carpool lane hydroplanes and does a 360. My mom ducks so she doesn’t have to look out the window. Then she starts crying and hyperventilating. My father sits up front in the passenger seat and says, in his Kor-English (English…


Added by Kelley on December 7, 2012 at 10:20am — 8 Comments


Dear Tony,

I haven’t written in a while because I have had some of my own setbacks which I needed to deal with.

Setback. That doesn’t make my current project a failure. It doesn’t mean that I need to permanently restrict my activities or make drastic changes. It means exactly what it is. Set. Back. It usually means I need to take a few steps backwards, need to slow down, need to lie low for a little while. Need to regroup. It depends of the project, of course, but it usually…


Added by Ariose Osciola on December 5, 2012 at 5:00pm — No Comments

Coping with Trauma

Dear Tony,

I know you have some serious trauma in your past which you think about often. I do, too. The majority of people with mental illness do. How it affects our illness is difficult to understand.

Facing this has been difficult for me. Often it is difficult to think about. If I try to write or say precisely what happened I fall apart. I can only deal with little pieces at a time. Even now.

That does not mean I can't improve.

One serious issue is the guilt…


Added by Ariose Osciola on December 5, 2012 at 5:00pm — No Comments

Starting to Change

Dear Tony,

I know that changing things is very difficult. You just need to start something. Anything. Anything that you can do right now.

The first step is almost always the most difficult. Once you have started, you will be able to move on and go further. You will see more possibilities, more things that you can do. But just taking that first step is the most difficult.

Chances are you fuction better at certain times or in certain locations or under other very specific…


Added by Ariose Osciola on December 5, 2012 at 4:30pm — No Comments

Hello and Help... Am I a democrat or a republican?

  I don’t fit anyone’s political platform. If you can label me, more power to you. I try to write on many things. I often find it hard to convey a complete thought when writing, so it takes me a long time to write things; If you dont understand something I write please ask me to clarify and I will do…


Added by John Fleshman on December 4, 2012 at 9:18pm — 3 Comments

Just Let It Grow

       Perhaps it is just the lazy way out. I will admit to that much. I have a decent size yard. It isn’t an acreage but it isn’t a postage stamp yard like I see some places. My black Lab, Max, has enough room to roam the bushes of our back yard and chase an occasional squirrel that ventures out of the trees. We have four Live Oaks, two Dwarf Magnolias, two Post Oaks, three Crape Myrtles, a Redbud, and a Bradford Pear scattered along my perimeter fence. Mixed in…


Added by Dan C. Boutwell on December 2, 2012 at 7:30am — 4 Comments

Learning to Heal

Dear Tony,

I have gone through some difficult periods myself recently. I would like to reflect on some of what I learned.

You need to fix your life as best as you can. Change is very traumatic at first. You need to have as much stability as possible before trying to change anything. Too much change can backfire quickly. Major changes involve an extended period of down time where you need to keep the rest of your life as stable as possible.

I tried to do too much, pushed…


Added by Ariose Osciola on December 1, 2012 at 6:00pm — No Comments


Dear Tony,

I know you are sick. I know that is very scary. I have been  there before.

Try to relax and calm down. Try to just rest at first. This  is most likely temporary. Your life will grow better in time.

When you  are sick, you need to heal. You need to relax and let both your body and your  mind heal yourself. No one can do that for you. People may be able to help you  with that, but you really need to heal yourself.

Healing is not the same  as treatment.…


Added by Ariose Osciola on December 1, 2012 at 6:00pm — No Comments

The Not Quite Stepmother Chronicles: Boundaries and Bullshit

We had another blow up last night.  At least once a month, we call her on her bullshit and she rages and storms and cries and stomps off.  This time, it was pay day and somehow not much money.  I made her father ask to see the paycheck stub, and physically pry money out of her hands.  She makes tips for pocket money, and still does not have to pay for any food or toiletries herself.  Still, somehow, she pisses away money faster than she gets it.  He got $150 out of $285, she cried about that…


Added by Oryoki Bowl on December 1, 2012 at 2:22pm — 33 Comments

She's Sick

It’s been 34 months since we last spent the night in Providence Hospital, an enviable streak for the chronically broken among us. 

We busted the streak Wednesday.

Caregiver Nykkie came in that morning about 7 a.m. and rousted me from a deep sleep, from a sleep aided by one of the few mornings cold enough in central Texas to cool down my sheets.  It had been a good sleep.

Nykkie gently poked my bare shoulder and said, “I’m sorry, but I don’t think Marty feels…


Added by Marty'sHusband on December 1, 2012 at 2:15pm — 14 Comments

Dipping the old toe(s)

I was in a position where I couldn't access the internet daily . Also, some browser told me that my gmail was "redirecting" and then could never ever ever complete, or some such thing.

I figured I couldn't write anything and just let it lie there . What if I got a lovely comment or two and just wouldn't respond. I silently hoped that OS would revive itself. There is no reason, that so many of us might understand, why it had to flounder and then die( or "pass" as everyone now says as…


Added by fernsy on December 1, 2012 at 5:57am — 34 Comments

Drama Detox, Deux

In the letting go and moving on, I have found myself rather bored.  This is not new and it is not particular to the recent situation.  My neurons have become habituated to the constant input, the influx of daily chatter, trauma, drama, gossip, complaint and lament.  My ear cells are still slightly strained to hear signals from my phone that a message has arrived, my eye cells tuned to scan the name of incoming texts and emails, my tensed muscles are letting go but still tightening here and…


Added by Oryoki Bowl on November 21, 2012 at 11:32am — 8 Comments

What is thankful about WAR?

Having been deployed on two twelve month tours to Afghanistan, a yearlong tour in Iraq, a few months in Kuwait and twenty six months in South Korea, I would say I have experienced a lot more than many other Americans with respect to freedom, how fortunate we are in the US and how [why] we put our lives on the line. I am not at all claiming I am an expert, but have unique experiences many people only read or hear stories about.…


Added by John Fleshman on November 21, 2012 at 7:16am — 6 Comments

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